This Is Where I Draw The Freaking Line!


I just received the longest email known to man about how horrid my book was (Dmitry’s Closet).  Unfortunately, I had to delete the post.  Why?   It was so long and such a drag until I refused to let it stay up. 

Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m used to getting the occasional email about my work.  And I normally take it in stride.  Countless readers have given me constructive criticism, offered their services and tried their best to help me.  I appreciate them, and I understand their purpose and points.  Some of their words have helped me A LOT.

But when someone sends me a three page letter on why they hated my stuff, I have to draw the line.  First of all, who has that type of time if they have a life?  Now, I did read the blog response. And I know a lot of authors who wouldn’t  have taken the time.  So, at least!!!

Anyway, you guys are my friends and my fans.  So tell me if I’m wrong. I’ll believe you.  But I just can’t take it anymore. Maybe it’s because I’m on my cycle and I am irritable, but maybe there is certain thing called “tact.”  And this email didn’t really have much of it.

If this reader felt so compelled to share her response with just me, then why didn’t she just send me an email?  I post my email everywhere.  Latrivia@LatriviaNelson.com.  And all of you know that I get 100 emails a day. Not all of them are nice, but I take time and I respond.  It’s important to them.  It’s important to me.  And it’s part of being a published author. Not everyone is going to like you.  I get it. I do. 

Instead of sending an email, however, she blasts me on my own blog and expects a nice response.  WTF!!!  That, my friends, is bullshit. And I am tired of always being nice.  You don’t come to someone’s house, fart in their living room and call it air freshener. And you don’t go to someone’s blog, basically tell them to quit their day job and call it constructive criticism.  Kiss my ass.

I print out every email.  Good and bad.  I look over them. Study them.  I outline the points that they make, use them to make my work better.  But I’m still a person with feelings.  I know (whine, whine) but I am a person, and I take my work seriously.  If I don’t defend it, who will? 

I spend countless hours away from my family, friends and life, doing what I consider to be the best job in the world.  I’m going to have feelings about it.

It’s not easy going after your dreams.  And often, your first, second and even third try can be semi unsuccessful, but I’m proud of the Medlov series.  It’s successful to me.  We have sold over 25,000 copies. I’ve made wonderful friendships as a result, and I’ve faced my fears.  That is so important to me. 

Now, there are things that I’m getting better at…like the copyediting element.  And now, I have Karen, and she is awesome.  She’s helping me fix things.  We’re going back and fixing the grammatical errors that made me a leper in the IR genre.  But at least, I’m in the genre.  At least, I’m giving it all that I have.  At least, I’m living my dream. 

When I first started out, I thought, I’ll just wait until everything is perfect.  But after Adam nearly died, I realized that no one is promised tomorrow.  I looked at him lying in the hospital bed and knew that there is no perfect time.  There is only right now.  Trust people. This is truth.  Don’t let fear steal your dreams from you.  Fight for them with everything that you have inside of you. 

So, I went balls to the wall, and I did it.  RiverHouse was born out of a need to share my voice and my thoughts with the world.  As imperfect as my books  may be, I still did it.  I put it out there, paid a horrid copyeditor, and I published my first book.  Now, I’m on my tenth.  If I should die tomorrow, then at least I will have accomplished something on my list that means so very much to me.  How many people can say that? 

I used to think that I had to take the “stuff” that people put out there about me.  But one day I looked in the mirror and realized that I don’t have to take it, and I won’t anymore.

You know what really irks me?  There are some people out there who hide behind their computers, behind these made up names, and these computer-generated photos.  They blast authors, singers, anyone who is trying to express themselves, and they do it anonymously so that they don’t have to face public humiliation after they purposely and maliciously humiliate you. 

They pick people apart.  They accuse you of having your friends and family post reviews just because they don’t like your book and couldn’t imagine that anyone else would.  In essence, they call you a freak fraud. 

They stomp on your dreams and your aspirations. 

They hope that you’ll quit, give up. 

Their entire purpose in life is to embarrass you!  But they have never penned a thing, published a thing, had one creative thought in their entire life that they followed through with. 

And authors like myself, who put their real picture and name up or authors who use pens names but put their real feelings and dreams into print are forced to deal with what they have said.  And we don’t get to do it anonymously.  We have to face the humiliation just as we are. 

They hide behind emails and computers.  We face the world.  Who is really coward? 

They go online and posts under several names and give horrid reviews.  And they don’t buy just one book. It’s like they can’t wait for you to release something else so that they can attack that too. 

Why?  I don’t know.  They do it though.   And then they curl up in their beds ALONE and sleep all night with a smirky little grin on their faces, because it makes them happy to tear you and your dreams apart.  What a trip!!!!

Well, I don’t have to take it.  I won’t take it anymore. 

There are going to be bad reviews.  And women and men who spend their money and their time deserve and opportunity to share their opinions.  I believe that. And I honor that.  I want to hear from them.  I want to be better for them and all my readers.

But I deserve the right to defend myself as well from that “other” type of reviewer – the one who wished that they could have done something else but didn’t, the one who never found the perfect opportunity so she just gave up and spent her entire life being bitter and attacking others. 

As an Interracial Romance Author, I get 10-20 emails a week from hate mongers who tell me that I’m not even human and have no right to write about a black woman and white man marrying each other.  I have to hear that my children are an abomination and that I don’t have a soul and should be back on a freaking plantation.  It’s hard enough to try to deal with those idiots. 

But on top of that, I get letters from sisters who would rather see me flipping burgers at a restaurant than pursuing my dreams.  I’ve already given the finger to the bigots of the world.  It looks like I’m going to use the other hand to give the finger to you too.

Fifty years from now, if God Almighty sees fit to still bless me with breath in my lungs, I’ll still be writing. I won’t ever quit.  So stop sending me emails and asking me to.  You’re wasting your time and more than that you’re pissing me off.

Do me a favor.  If you are only interested in attacking me, then don’t buy my books.  This is for the entertainment of people who want to do more than tear others down.  I want to hear from them.  I want their criticism, their support – not yours!!!

 

New Review from Joyfully Reviewed for Dmitry’s Closet


I was having a day (which I’ll blog about later) but Nakita made it all better with this awesome review.  I have to share it with you.  Please visit their site and share this on your blogs. 

Have a great night,

Latrivia S. Nelson

Reviewed by Nikita Steele

Dmitry’s Closet by Latrivia S. Nelson

For the first time in his life, Dmitry Medlov was considering breaking the code, departing his empire and starting a new life with Royal Stone.  But, because of his ties to the Russia Mafia as the ruthless leader of the Medlov Organized Crime Family, that was easier said than done, especially since every known law enforcement agent was determined to take him down.  And, it didn’t help matters much that his one and only blood brother was trying to take over his kingdom by permanently eliminating him with deadly force.  Yet, the worst part of it all was that his beloved Royal was totally in the dark about his criminal life.

While searching for a job, Royal Stone met Dmitry Medlov.  Greatly intrigued by her, Dmitry instantly hired her to manage his new clothing boutique named Dmitry’s Closet.  Although, surprised by the offer, Royal felt very gracious by the opportunity and quickly agreed to the offer.  It was long before a super hot love affair blossomed between them.  What Royal wasn’t aware of was that Dmitry led a double life as a Russia Mafia crime boss.  When discovered, will she or won’t she continue to be his woman?

Wow!  While I devoured Dmitry’s Closet, I felt as if I was right smack in the middle of a smoking hot soap opera.  This plot had the true markings fantastic storyline where race had no boundaries.  It was jam-packed with drama, cold-heartedness, betrayal, envy, humor, suspense, lust and raw passion.  Once started, I simply couldn’t get enough.  I was hanging on the edge of my seat turning page after page eager to see just how the story would unfold.  Dmitry and Royal were on total opposite ends of the spectrum.  Whereas Dmitry was worldly wise and callous; Royal took things at face value and was very inexperienced – almost too native.  Yet, she fitted perfectly with Dmitry and made him want to have more out of life than his criminal activities.  She softened his outlook on life.  Dmitry’s Closet is not for the faint of heart because it contained violent actions that some might find offensive.  Nevertheless, it needed to be told because of the cruel lifestyle of the mafia.  If you are looking for a thrilling read that will capture and tightly hold your attention from start to finish, then look no future than Latrivia S. Nelson’s Dmitry’s Closet.

 

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I’ve been promising this book for a few weeks now, but it’s finally live. Ladies and gentlemen, you may now purchase the 65-page short story that begins Dmitry Medlov’s journey to the top on my new website (www.latrivianelson.info). I hope that you enjoy the new site. It has been designed to keep you more in touch with all the wonderful things that we have been working on for your pleasure. Plus, I think it’s sort of sexy. Here’s my thought on all of this. I enjoy writing for you guys because you enjoy reading my work. So, as long as I can figure out a way to send you an amazing story, I will do my best to do just that!

What is the Volume 1 about?

Readers, who have already made themselves familiar with The Medlov Crime Family Series, will experience young Dmitry Medlov before his rise to the top. Released from prison at the age of 18, Dmitry Medlov has 24 hours to assassinate a Ukrainian drug lord and get both he and his brother on a plane to London. After being imprisoned for three years, however, many things have changed. Ivan isn’t a little boy anymore and he’s showing signs of being a sociopath. His ex-girlfriend is engaged and he’s a foot taller. Purchase this 65-page short story designed to begin to answer many questions about American’s favorite Russian crime boss. Only $3. PDF format. Emailed within 5-minutes right to your email.

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Suits and Swagger


We talked about Dmitry and his jeans-and-beer side.  Now, it’s time to talk about Suits and Swagger.  When Royal first met Dmitry, he was in the restaurant playing the violin alone and wearing a suit.  When he arrived back from a trip to New York, he was wearing a suit.  When he showed up at her door for their first date, he was wearing a very nice suit.  Dmitry is not scared to put a suit on and wear it well.  It speaks to the more sophisticated part of his character. 

A man in a suit is a powerful thing.  Could you imagine James Bond in bib overalls?  Life just wouldn’t be the same.  The suit doesn’t make the man, but it does make him sexy.  It’s the swagger of the man once he puts the suit on.  It screams power, virility, control and yes, even sex.

One of the things you do notice is Dmitry relaxes a little more when he’s in other clothes.  When he’s in his suit, he’s boss.  When he’s in jeans, he’s just Dmitry. 

Have you noticed what a suit can do to a man?  Maybe that’s why you can only dress casually on Friday’s at the firm.  The suits exudes something more highly respected…maybe.

What are your thoughts? 

Latrivia S. Nelson

The Many Sides of Dmitry Medlov: Jeans And Beer


Excerpt from Dmitry’s Closet:

She listened to the storm rock the city with wind, heavy rains and lightning as she waited. Curiously, she looked out the window across his large gated lawn undisturbed by the late night rumblings. Security guards with dogs walked the perimeter of his property even in the rain, while Anatoly stood on the porch watching her and waiting for Dmitry. Rich people, she thought as she sat back in her seat. They are so freaking dramatic.

She closed her eyes finally and relaxed her head on the leather, feeling the warm seats caress her body. She had nearly gone to sleep when Dmitry arrived back. As the door opened for him, rain quickly rushed inside, dampening her face. He jumped in with a pair of dark jeans and a blue v-neck top, looking the most casual that Royal had ever seen him.

“Hope I wasn’t long,” he said, taking a swig of the Foster’s beer that he carried with him.

“Actually, I dozed off there for a minute.” Royal sat up in the chair. “You look…great. Like a walking Ralph Lauren advertisement.” She nodded.

“A compliment? It seems that we are making progress, Royal,” he said as he tapped her knee. “Anatoly, let’s go,” Dmitry instructed, keeping his eye on Royal.

The car started, and they pulled off. Royal watched Dmitry curiously but did not speak.

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There are so many sides to Dmitry. The gentleman. The killer. The businessman. The dude. The sex machine. The lover. The father. The husband. The brother. The boss. As we move forward with the series, it is important to always keep this blog going with discussions about the foundations of each character. Since Dmitry is focus of all the characters, it’s important to look at his many faces. He doesn’t try to be everything to everyone, but in this series, he has touched a lot of people (and not always in a good way).

Tonight, I wanted us to look at the Jeans and Beer guy. It’s not the biggest part of him, but it’s a soft, easy way to start the discussion off. A man whom you met wearing a suit and playing the violin pops out of his mansion in jeans and holding a beer on your first date. He has so many layers. While serious, there is something about Royal that makes Dmitry almost whimsical.

If there are any of us out there who are serious most of the time, is there a special someone who makes you relax, loosen up, forget the stick lodged firmly up our anal cavities and just be fun? Oddly enough, Royal wasn’t the whimsical type but she did give him normalcy that made him forget his place as boss and made him remember that he was still just a man who liked a girl.

What’s your favorite Dmitry?

Anatoly Medlov: Silence is A Virtue.


Ladies, I know that I’ve been gone for a while.  I’ve had quite the events going on, but now that things are settled for the moment, I had to get back to you, and how I’ve missed you.  The thing that has been on my mind has been my favorite character, Anatoly.  I’ve been working away everyday on his character development and in order to do so, I’ve had to constantly look at where he came from. 

In Dmitry’s Closet, Anatoly is the silent type.  However, in my opinion, his silence spoke in volumes.  There is something to be said about a man who can “hold his secrets.”  Have you ever met a man who was a chatter box?  You sit down with him and in ten minutes you know his entire life story.  There is nothing exciting about that.  For one thing, he likes to talk about himself.  Secondly, you can bet that half of what he’s telling you (unless he’s Forest Gump) isn’t true.

The only men who should be allowed to tell their life stories are old men and young boys.  Old men don’t have long on this earth and may be able to impart knowledge and wisdom.  Young boys (ten and under) haven’t been here long enough to bore you out of your mind.  Every other age group in between should learn to be conservative.

Our ongoing theme is the undying quest to find the Alpha Male.  Are there really many Alpha Males who are chatter boxes?  I wonder this often.  You meet a man in a bookstore.  He’s tall, beautiful, educated, but if he’s long winded, he’s probably trying to cover up something by talking.  You meet a gorgeous guy at the gym.  He’s muscular, he’s tan, he’s rich and he’s infatuated with his ex-girlfriend, whom he talks about whenever he’s reminded of something.  You meet a great doctor with hand that are strong and firm, but he uses them to talk and hypnotizes you with his long fingers as he describes how he performs each and every small procedure but couldn’t give you a back massage if he had instructions.  I could go on and on.  My girlfriends and I talk all the time at our dinner meetings (which consists of a lot of Jack Daniels and Scotch) and we always lament over the things that scratch men off the Alpha Male List.

What is the Alpha Male List?  It’s a list of undeniable characteristics that only a true Alpha Male has.  It’s fun and ridiculous, but it’s a great conversation topic.  You should try it.  Get your girls together and build your own Alpha Male like a Build-A-Bear. 

Anyhow, all of that is said to say this.  Anatoly is silent because behind his beautiful bright eyes are dark secrets that aren’t meant to be told.  The mysterious nature of his youth is what will propel him to an awesome future in the series. 

Now, quick question to all of you.  What is your ideal Alpha male?  And would you agree that he need be quiet? 

XoXo and all that jazz,

Latrivia

Great Review from The RAWSISTAZ Reviewers for Dmitry’s Closet


Date Reviewed:  Jun 14, 2010

 

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Paula Henderson is an IT Manager with a book addiction.  She is the mother of three children and resides in Little Rock, Arkansas.

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Copyright 2001-2008 – RAWSISTAZLiterary Group

 

DMITRY’S CLOSET is the story of a hard-hearted crime lord who falls for a recent college graduate.  When Dmitry Medlov first met Royal Stone, she was searching for a job.  The attraction between the two is instant and Dmitry is so intrigued, he hires her to manage his new clothing store named Dmitry’s Closet.  Royal is surprised at the opportunity and salary, especially from such a gorgeous man.  As they work closely together, a relationship blossoms.  What Royal does not know is Dmitry is head of a Russian Mafia and there are enemies trying to destroy his empire. 

One of his staunchest rivals is his equally handsome brother Ivan.  Although Dmitry raised Ivan, he is jealous of the empire his older brother has amassed, so he comes to Memphis with plans to destroy him.  There is disloyalty in the Medlov camp, undercover officers all around and federal agents all waiting to take them down.  The challenge for Dmitry is determining who can be trusted, staying ahead of his younger brother and keeping his world a secret from Royal.

DMITRY’S CLOSET contains intrigue, action and romance.  At the beginning of the novel, I was not quite sure I would be drawn in, but after the first few chapters, I became fully engaged in by the chemistry between Royal and Dmitry.  Although they were an interracial couple, there was no emphasis put on this, which I enjoyed because that should not be a factor.  Royal’s innocence and naiveté coupled with Dmitry’s brusque behavior was like fire and ice.  The drama that ensued continued to engage me to the very end.  The plot took me from the street of Memphis to New York during fashion week, from Russia during the holidays and eventually to Prague.  Complex characters, settings, and concepts kept me on my toes.  I would recommend this one for those who like a romance tale with depth.

 

Reviewed by Paula Henderson
of The RAWSISTAZ™ Reviewers

Website:  http://www.latrivianelson.com

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